"The Language of Posing" Cindy Bruna photographed by Andreas Larsson, The Gentlewoman #10 Autumn/Winter 2014
Charts from OKCupid, showing how straight women and men rate each other based on ages. For women, the men they find most attractive are roughly their own age. For men, the women they find most attractive are roughly the same age - 20 to 23 - regardless of the age of the man. (538)
Good fucking Christ.
I’m lying on a white comforter in front of fan and my lover is shaving in the other room and I’m not allowed to look at the single curl that curls in his hair from the humidity of shaving in small quarters because “we’re not there yet”
we didn’t move in together though we joked about it. he did move closer to me and while the moving was necessary, my neighborhood was not
it’s coming out of yourself, really. it’s a deeply appreciative and enthusiastic awareness of somebody else. i mean, in general. it’s what we’re living for and that’s what i’m fighting for. i think of myself as a political person doing whatever i do, but basically what i aim for is to make love a reasonable possibility. ‘cause if things are really horrifying all the time, i don’t think it is a reasonable possibility. if we’re living in a climate of awesome cruelty exercised by folks who have power over us, it can happen, but i don’t think it becomes reasonable. but it’s that possibility that makes living worthwhile. my commitment to love is not an alternative to my political commitments. it’s the same thing.
june jordan on love as a reasonable possibility from
(thanks for the reminder che gossett!)
tagged by my love spaceshipignition who is gonna see a stand-out repeat of one of her own picks and — damn, i’m gonna try not to struggle over this for days!!!!! this is not in a Thought Out order
Rules: In a text post, list ten books that have stayed with you in some way. Don’t take but a few minutes, and don’t think too hard — they don’t have to be the “right” or “great” works, just the ones that have touched you. Tag [ten] friends, including me, so I’ll see your list. Make sure you let your friends know you’ve tagged them.
1. The Woman Warrior by Maxine Hong Kingston (mhk should receive my first-born child for the huge solid she did me by writing this book)
2. On Beauty and Being Just by Elaine Scarry (these are my two main interests and elaine scarry makes my <3 swell The End)
3. The Lover by Marguerite Duras (i read this in a sunny armchair in one sitting and then turned back to the beginning and read it again)
4. Mrs. Dalloway by Virginia Woolf (but really like everything, her whole thing, this was just the first thing, a room of one’s own in particular; it sticks in my head something someone said to me that “every girl likes virginia woolf,” so sue me)
5. Madness, Rack, and Honey by Mary Ruefle (this might be the biggest one. might be #1. i read this the week i graduated from college and cried a lot; taught and reassured me a lot about futility and endurance w/r/t poetry as a sentimental and useless project and w/r/t everything else. she’s figured it all out. will recommend till the worms are in me)
6. The Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison (this one does not deliver at every moment but it’s part of the curriculum i would put together for my capital L Life)
7. The House of Mirth by Edith Wharton
8. Enormous Changes at the Last Minute by Grace Paley
9. poetry foundation dot org’s compendium of poetry by Elizabeth Bishop, first of all, Louise Gluck and Jorie Graham, seconds of all, Emily Dickinson, recently arrived (i can do this. it counts. i make the rules!!)
10. Camera Lucida by Roland Barthes (the only man squeaks into last place. leave me alone)